Inter-Religion-Marriage

Religion and marriage are very sensitive topics. I don’t know if I have any right to write on it, but these are just some things which I really feel, n I am writing down that over here. I absolutely have no intention to hurt anyone.

Marriage is a very important thing in everyone’s life. I am born in a Maharashtrian (that too in a Brahmin) family. I will be getting married to a Christian boy. (I can see the raised eyebrows and popped out eyes of lots of people, especially of the people who stay in India). But it’s my decision and I have taken it after thinking a lot before taking it. Rather, when both of us took this decision, we knew that it’s going to be a major thing and we should consider all the facts. Because whatever it is, after all this is going to be an inter-religion-marriage. And I am certainly matured enough to take the marriage thing very much seriously. So we had a long discussions, gave lots n lots of thoughts, considering all the pros n cons of it. Here are the few things on which I gave some serious thought before taking the decision!

And the main thing which came in my mind is a complete acceptance! Though we are the bestest friends, knew each other since a long period, still I am going to get married with a guy who is not of my religion. So definitely his culture and my culture are totally different. And I know, atlest in India, a girl has to adjust more than a boy. It’s an unwritten rule! Though I will not get converted in that religion (which I don’t think is much important), still I will have to accept the person with his religion from my heart. It’s very easy to say that I don’t believe in any religions, all religions are same and blah blah… But in reality, there is a difference. I really think that if I want to make this marriage as a successful marriage, then I will have to keep my ego (n not a self-respect) aside, and accept the things. Keep aside the immense-egoistic-love (n not respectful-love) for my own religion and think on how I can make a perfect mixture of both the religions so that both of us can enjoy our life and will not have any difficulties in accepting each other.

I feel the key for a successful marriage is, respecting you spouse and his family, believes, and willing to do the adjustments without having any hazels in the mind. You should mean whatever you say. It should not be only in words, but it should be coming out from your heart. If you say that you are agnostic about the religions and all, then just be honest about it. Because marriage means living together... accepting each-other as they are, changing yourself a little bit so that you can easily get adjusted with the other person. Marriage means a Union of two hearts... two persons... then why not two religions?