Why???

Sudeep’s post reminded me the following incidence which happened some days back.

I and MN are very good friends. Some days back we went out for shopping together. After spending more than two hours in shopping and other stuff we were on our way back to the home. It was almost 9.15 pm. While saying byes n all and moving off, one lady came, she called MN, and said “What is this, what are you doing here?” in a loud and a commanding voice! The way MN’s face changed I came to know something is wrong here. We were standing in the middle of the road, so I just asked the lady to go behind to avoid any kind of accident. The lady said, “You just shut up”, and suddenly hit on my head!!! What the heck??? I am standing in the middle of the road, don’t know when which car will hit me, and plus one lady is hitting me for no reason! I was completely annoyed with the shock and pushed her back. She started shouting at me and told me to go away. She holded MN’s hand and was forcing her to come with her. Suddenly I remember who that lady is n now I can not leave MN alone with her for anything!!!

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In to the flashback:

MN met one guy RJ before some years. Eventually fall in love with each other. Everything was fine with the guy apart from she never met his family. They were seeing each other for almost one and half years. When the time came to disclose it to MN’s family and talk with them about the marriage thing, suddenly the guy started giving some excuses. Telling something that he has got some problem in the family n all rubbish thing. As MN is a very good friend of mine, I knew everything what is going on in her life. After seeing the things the alarm started ringing in my head that there is something wrong here. I kept on telling MN to confirm the things with his parents and all.. but she didn’t get any chance. One day unfortunately (?) RJ had forgotten his mobile at home. And guess what... RJ’s wife answered MN’s phone call!!! Wife?????? Where the hell she came from?

No need to tell what happened next. RJ had completely fooled MN. I told MN to inform about the things to his wife about what her husband was doing behind her back! But MN’s over-nice nature refused to do that. All crying... My friend took two years to come out of that. In between I just came to know that RJ’s wife got to know about MN and RJ. I was not aware about what happened next! But for me the topic was closed. I didn’t want to remind anything to MN. I had seen the pain she took to come out of everything.

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The lady we met on the road was RJ’s wife. She saw MN and thought that she came to meet RJ there! Don’t know what made her think that. She was shouting like anything. MN is a kind of person who will never fight with anyone. But I am not like that. I believe if someone is abusing you for no reason you should fight back for that!!! And as MN is my friend, I thought it’s my responsibility to protect her. (Afterwords many of my other friends thought that I should have left the place immediately instead of acting over smart and poking my nose in between. But how can I leave my friend like that? I mean it would have been so wrong. I would never have been able to forgive myself in future for doing this. I did what I felt right at that time.)

I tried to explain her that MN was with me for past two hours, and she should let us go home because it was almost 10pm. But she was not listening to anything. To add on she called her brother, after that her dad and uncle. Her dad was complete drunk and was using such a bad language on the road. I can’t even tell. Her uncle was looking quite sensible (bad amongst worst). After having a lot of argument with him, I managed to convince him to let MN go home and solve the issue with her family.

I dropped MN at her place, explained her parents whatever has happened that day. I came to know that this has happened before also. I was completely shocked.

Anyways we are not concerned what happened after that. But if we see the things completely, we will come to know that the major mistake was of RJ - the guy. But then why MN was harassed for that? I agree she didn’t inquire properly about the guy at first, but then she trusted him. This thing never came in her mind. The guy was so skilful that he could manage to fake her! But then when his wife came to know about this entire why she cursed my friend instead of her own husband? Only because he is her husband? I mean, if she would have been at MN’s place how she would have felt? She should think as a woman and not as a wife. If one woman can not keep the dignity of other woman then... I don’t know what to say on this. But we are in to the 21^st century. People should keep their eyes open. Why wife should take the side of her husband all the time even if he is wrong? That man, RJ has spoiled the life of both the women, he has insulted them, and still he is getting all the protection from everyone. And MN is suffering in her life. Why???

Good afternoon Mam...

You in the midst of something and suddenly you phone rings. You think it’s some important call and then you hear these words... “Good afternoon Mam...”. Hahhhhh *sheer-disappointment*... One more telecaller!

Earlier I used to get very irrigated with these calls. Just used to say “I am not interested in any of your schemes” and cut the call. But some days back I was discussing with my colleague about this telemarketing job. And while thinking, I realised... They just do their job. Poor people... They have to keep on making phone calls for the whole day and listen to the crap what all people make them listen. It’s not right. So immediately the decision was made to treat them nicely. Reject them politely. They are human beings. No need to be rude with them just because they call you!

Today:

I, in the midst of something very urgent and suddenly the office landline rings.

Tring tring...

I: Hello..?
Caller: Good afternoon mam
(I am quite disappointed because immediately I came to know that this is some telecaller. Still decide to keep calm and disconnect the phone in a decent manner!)
I: Yes..?
Caller: Hello mam, I am calling from XYZ company. This is regarding our Gold card scheme.
(Trying to cut her conversation calmly. Remember... it’s her job!)
I: I...
Caller: Mam we have got a very good scheme for you. N it’s absolutely free mam. We are giving some the Gold cards for our customers. To avail the facility of this Gold card you just have to fill up one form to open the account in our company. Then you have to keep the minimum amount of deposit in that account in the range of Rs. 75,000 to Rs. 2,50,000. This will depend on your annual salary package.
(I am loosing my patience)
I: See, actually...
(She without taking the pause and ignoring my attempt to speak something)
Caller: You will get lots of other benefits with this mam. Like you will get 5% flat discount on your shopping in X, Y, Z... and like this in many other shops. You will get the booklet of the list of the shops. To have a credit card these days is very normal thing. But this is a Gold card mam. And if you see the benefits of it...
(*say-calm-don’t-scream*)
I: But I really...
(Ignoring)
Caller: You will not have to do anything mam. My executive will come to you, you just need to give the details and a photocopy of your salary slip. What time should I send him, can you give me your address?
(Finally she took a pause.. yayyyyy I can speak now. Again my un-necessary polite nature popped up so I said in my sweet voice...)
I: Thank you very much for all your information. But I am really not interested in taking this card from you.
Caller: But why mam, It’s a good scheme.
(Showing my over-politeness and trying to end the conversation)
I: It might be, but I am really not interested. Thank you. I am quite busy right now.
Caller: There are so many benefits. And plus Rs. 75,000 as minimum balance is not a huge amount (It’s N O T???). What is your annual salary mam? You give me those details, I will right away tell you how much deposit you will have to keep in the bank. I will send the executive today only, it will not take much of your time. Can you give me the details regarding your annual salary package and residential address? Or you will prefer the executive to come in to your office?
(Now you made a mistake baby... Completely pissed off with her)
I: That’s none of your business. I am telling you I am not interested in your scheme still you are bugging me up. I am N O T interested. Now can I get back to my work?

Thudddddd... She banged the phone!!! Can you believe this? She just banged the phone!!! This is what the prize I got for keeping patience with her! No more politeness with any telecallers man!

Tring tring.. oh gosh.. my office phone is ringing again *time-to-be-rude*!

Never... I repeat... N E V E R!

I learnt some lessons today after having my lunch! How???

Disclaimer: Okay, now for hardcore non-veg eaters, I might offend you with this post. But just put yourself in my shoes and think that you are a vegetarian turned in to non-vegetarian and don’t know much to eat beyond the chicken!

The situation was: My colleague AJ wanted to give a treat to me and PY (other colleague of mine). Apparently I and PY are veggies (to be specific brahmins) by birth. But as majority of the other Brahmins, we do eat nonveg food out (we are supposed to, no? :D). So today we went out for lunch with AJ who is a complete non-vegetarian

Initially we decided to go somewhere else, but ended up going to the pizzeria. We ordered for some pasta, a pizza n some iced-tea. Now AJ wanted to have some starters and she ordered for something which was made of a squid!!! As she said it’s similar to prawns and we, being a quite unaware about nonveg food, had it. It was not that bad neither was very good. Everything was fine until now. Then... After coming back, I was discussing about the food with Nessa - yes, she is the food-goddess for me :), esp. for nonveg food – n was updating her about what I had for my lunch... I came to know that squid is something like octopus!!! W H A T??? Did you say Octopus? I mean the animal with eight legs or something like that? *speechless-shocked-surprised-n don’t know what all*. After eating it I actually had thought that those were some different kind of prawns *embarrassed*! As being the computer geeks (we are software engineers you know :P :D), I and PY immediately goggled for the picture of the squid on the internet. Hahhh... *sigh*... it was not a pleasant site. :

Anyways by the time I am writing this it’s in my stomach now and I am not going to take that out for anything :D. And nothing like I am upset because I ate some weird animal (which I think millions of people in this world must be eating). But this is a question of my lack of the knowledge and my blind trust on someone whom I don’t know well. (here, I am not blaming AJ at all, because know she was very genuine and didn’t force me to eat it.)

Lesson: Never do anything before having a sufficient (and not necessarily complete) knowledge of anything. Never trust anyone blindly so that you will not be in any kind of awkward situation!

People... Please excuse me if I am over-reacting and over-analysing the thing. But I think these are very small things through which you get to learn lots of important lessons.